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[PDF] Download Molecular Interactions: Concepts and Methods by David A. Micha | Free EBOOK PDF English

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Title: Molecular Interactions: Concepts and Methods
Author: David A. Micha
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Publisher: Wiley; 1 edition (January 2, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN: 0470290749
Rating: 5     1 reviews

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From the Back Cover An up-to-date and comprehensive text that explores intermolecular forces Molecular Interactions offers a comprehensive guide that examines the fundamental concepts and methods of intermolecular forces. The text provides a quantitative treatment based on molecular properties, introducing realistic models and theoretical tools needed to obtain physical properties. All chapters include an introduction to the qualitative aspects of molecular interactions and then explore the interactions are treated in a quantitative fashion. The author―a noted expert on the topic―examines the concepts and quantitative aspects of molecular interaction such as electrostatic, induction, and dispersion forces and shows how they extend to intermediate and short ranges for ground and excited states. The text includes a survey of model potential functions. It offers an exploration of recent developments in the field including electronically non-adiabatic interactions, correlated many-electron treatments, generalized density functional theory, decomposition, and embedding of molecular fragments for large systems. It also presents the most recent developments using artificial intelligence with network training for many-atom system. It includes molecular interactions between two many-atom systems, interactions in condensed matter, and interactions of molecules with surfaces. Presents the concepts and methods of molecular interactions used in calculations Offers comprehensive descriptions starting from atomic structure Provides the theory and computational approaches needed for many-atom interactions Contains illustrative applications to many physical systems and worked examples Written for students and researchers in chemical physics, materials sciences, molecular biology, pharmaceuticals, and medical sciences, Molecular Interactions offers an authoritative guide to the fundamentalconcepts and methods as well as information on the most recent innovations that have relevance for new materials, biological phenomena, and energy and fuels production. Read more About the Author David A. Micha, PhD, is a Professor of Chemistry and Physics at the University of Florida, presently Adjunct and Emeritus, with continuing research activity. His many research interests include molecular interactions and kinetics, and quantum molecular dynamics involving energy transfer, electron transfer, light emission, reactions in gas phase collisions, and also at solid surfaces. His work has been recognized with awards from the Alfred P. Sloan Foundation and the Dreyfus Foundation, and with an Alexander von Humboldt Senior Scientist Award. Dr. Micha has been the organizer of several Pan-American Workshops and is a co-organizer of the “Sanibel Symposium on Theory and Computation for the Molecular and Materials Sciences” at the University of Florida. Read more

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This book provides both graduate students and researchers an excellent overview of molecular interactions, their theoretical underpinnings, and estimation methods. Much of the material is scattered throughout the scientific literature, the overview and current assessment of the various topics will be of great use to those that wish to inform their research and further develop their insight into chemical physical problems. Given its purpose, the book naturally assumes a strong quantum mechanical background. Prof. Micha is well positioned to review this area of theoretical chemistry and physics given his long, active and very productive research in chemical physics, and his involvement and participation in the Sanibel Island Symposia, where many of the world leading experts gather to present their latest research.I highly recommend the book to chemical physics students and researchers.

[PDF] Download U-505: The Lone Wolf of Chicago's Museum of Science and Industry by James E. Wise Jr. | Free EBOOK PDF English

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Title: U-505: The Lone Wolf of Chicago’s Museum of Science and Industry
Author: James E. Wise Jr.
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Publisher: Naval Institute Press; 1st edition (January 28, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN: 1591149673
Rating: 4,8     18 reviews

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About the Author James E. Wise Jr. (1930-2013) is the author or coauthor of many books including Shooting the War, Stars in Blue, Stars in the Corps, Stars in Khaki, and International Stars at War, Sole Survivors of the Sea, Sailor�s Journey into War, and ,James Arness, an autobiography that he helped Arness write. Read more

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I was through the U-505 in the early 70s when it was still outside. The $2 booklet from the museum is still floating around somewhere in the bookshelves so I had a basic idea of the capture story. This book is so much more. It has a little bit of background on the war, the battle of the Atlantic, the weapons systems used (both sides), as well as the capture & disposition of the sub since. Printed well on good paper.
So much more that a history of U-505 this book provides background on the U-Boat war from both Allied and German viewpoints. The photos are outstanding. I saw the U-505 at the Museum when it was outside so need to plan a trip back to see inside the exhibit.
Love this book seen the sub love it.
A lot of history about both the boat and the ASW task force.
Great History of the U-505 and getting it o Chicago. I have see it many times, starting in the early 1960’s
It was a reporters view of the overall event. Not much perasonal features. I served under him and he was a great personality.
Nice book for those who might want detail about submarine warfare and the capture of the sub as well as final resting place
We saw the sub at the MSI and was a great to see it in person, so you can feel like you we part of it, what they went throu and how they live,We did not buy the book why there and my husband wanted it so looking for it Amazon.com was the only site we found that had the book we wanted. U 505 was a great book for everyone………..

[PDF] Download Lacloche Joaillers (English and French Edition) by Laurence Mouillefarine | Free EBOOK PDF English

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Title: Lacloche Joaillers (English and French Edition)
Author: Laurence Mouillefarine
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Publisher: Editions Norma; Bilingual edition (January 9, 2020)
Language: English, French
ISBN: 2376660246
Rating: 5     3 reviews

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About the Author Laurence Mouillefarine is a freelance journalist who specializes in the art market and contributes to Architectural Digest, Le Figaro magazine and La Gazette Drouot. She is passionate about jewelry of the interwar period, and is the author, with Véronique Ristelhueber, of Raymond Templier, le bijou moderne, the first monograph on this jeweler (Norma, 2005). She has co-curated the exhibition Bijoux Art déco et avant-garde at the Musée des Arts décoratifs in Paris in 2009 and is the author of the eponymous catalogue (Norma/Les Arts Déco, 2009). Fascinated by hidden domestic treasures, she has written, with Philippe Colin-Olivier, Vous Êtes riches sans le savoir (Le Passage, 2012). Read more

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I have been watching the price on this book as soon as it was shown on Amazon. I have read so many books on different jewelry collections, both private and museum, that mention stunningly beautiful pieces that were made by or sold by Lacloche Freres but there had not been any book about them. I could only find a few documented pieces that were photgraphed in other books. Finally this exhibition (which I was not able to go to France to see) was releasing a book with info and recent photographs. I am a Graduate Gemologist and in the jewelry world, but anyone would love this book! Eye-candy galore, large photographs, reproduced color renderings of the designs for now lost pieces, and a detailed list at the back of information about the people and creators. The company specialized in making lovely clocks and Vanity Cases, so detailed that they often took more than 700 hundred hours to create. Using the finest gem materials each item is a treasure, I only wish they were more photographs of the inside of these cases. A bi-lingual book, for those of us who do not speak or read French, 300 + large size pages of beauty, information for all whether professional or lay person, buy this book before they are gone.

[PDF] Download Bound for Murder: A Blue Ridge Library Mystery by Victoria Gilbert | Free EBOOK PDF English

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Title: Bound for Murder: A Blue Ridge Library Mystery
Author: Victoria Gilbert
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Publisher: Crooked Lane Books (January 7, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN: 1643852434
Rating: 4,4     54 reviews

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Review Praise for Bound for Murder:“Pleasant.”—Kirkus Reviews“The plot builds to a complex but satisfying conclusion. Cozy fans will hope Amy will return soon.”—Publishers Weekly”Series fans will enjoy the ongoing shenangians…Newbies with an appreciation for small town politics (and an interlibrary loan mulligan) will have no trouble starting here.”—Booklist“Another deftly crafted mystery buff’s delight by a true master of the genre.”—Midwest Book Review“The murder mystery is both well plotted and clever enough to keep the most seasoned of mystery readers guessing.”—MyShelfPraise for Past Due for Murder:“A fun tale of books and crooks!”—Woman’s World“Gilbert weaves a well-paced, engaging story with strong characters… Blue Ridge Mystery fans will love reconnecting with Amy and her Taylorsford compatriots.”—NY Journal of Books“Readers who enjoy a splash of the local history of the Blue Ridge Mountains as well as current events, will find this an interesting read, and I can envision it as a good selection for a local book club. I look forward to the next book and highly recommend you read not only this one, but the two before it.”—MyShelf“Skillfully written…This library-loving mystery series [is] completely irresistible.”—Kings River Life Magazine“Well-written, featuring an intriguing and complex central mystery that builds to an exciting finale, Past Due for Murder is great.”—Fab Book Reviews Read more About the Author Victoria Gilbert, raised in the shadow of the Blue Ridge Mountains, turned her early obsession with reading into a dual career as an author and librarian. Victoria has worked as a reference librarian, research librarian, and library director. When not writing or reading, she likes to spend her time watching films, gardening, or traveling. She is a member of Sisters in Crime and International Thriller Writers and lives in North Carolina. This is her fourth Blue Ridge Library mystery. Read more

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I enjoyed this book. This series has a lot of characters we have grown to have affection for. I can appreciate Amy’s desire to get the answers to questions, especially questions and problems that effect people she loves. When Sunny’s grandparents farm and the commune they used to run comes under fire because of the discovery of the body of one of its long lost members, Amy cannot stand ideally especially when they ask for her help.When more bodies start adding up and threats and bullets are aimed at her, we know Amy and her crew are in for a wild ride.
A home run. I so enjoy this series. I was shocked to see who the killer was. I didn’t see that coming. Can’t wait for the next one.
Love the characters in this series, but especially enjoy the library setting. Having worked in a library, I can identify with the life of a librarian.
I enjoyed this book very much. An easy and enjoyable read.
Bound for Murder is the first book that I have read by Victoria Gilbert. This cozy mystery is set in Taylorsford, Virginia near the Blue Ridge Mountains and was very enjoyable.The female protagonist, Amy Webber, is a library director in a small town. She loves research and has helped the police in the past. While this is the fourth book in the series it worked well as a standalone novel, although it may add to the enjoyment and understanding of the characters to read them in order.Amy’s best friend, Sunny Fields, is running for mayor and was raised by her grandparents who run an organic farm, but in the 1960s it was a commune. When human remains are found on their property, both the police and Sunny’s grandparents enlist Amy’s help. Amy has research to do, people to talk with, and a mystery to solve while she plans her wedding to next door neighbor Richard and supports Sunny’s mayoral campaign.The book is well-written with the right mix of humor and suspense. There are several potential suspects and enough twists and turns to keep the reader interested. The pacing is just right, but has more intense moments than a lot of cozy mysteries, which added to my enjoyment. The characters are well developed with a charming mix of personalities ranging from likable, intelligent, and independent to quirky to annoying to deceptive. There were several themes addressed within the book including library management, organic farming, county fairs, murder, grief, revenge, deception, wedding planning, drugs, communes and much more.I recommend this book to readers that like a good mystery, and I look forward to reading other books in the series.Thanks to NetGalley, Crooked Lane Books and Victoria Gilbert for an e-ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Dollycas’s ThoughtsLibrary Director Amy Webber finds herself in the middle of another murder mystery, this time one that happened sometime in the 1960s.Amy’s friend Sunny Fields needs her help. A skeleton has been found on her grandparent’s farm. A farm with a colorful past. Her grandparents, Carol & P.J. Fields, ran a commune there back in the days of free love and enlightenment. The skeleton is soon identified as a member of the commune who was thought to have followed his dream and headed West. The investigation also shows the man had been murdered. With Sunny running for mayor she needs to get to the truth as soon as possible. Amy uses her stellar research skills to track down and meet with former members of the commune knowing any one of them could be the killer.Sheriff Investigator Brad Tucker asked her to help with the case by doing a little research. He isn’t happy when she actually starts pursuing leads on her own. He tries to rein her in when she receives several warnings to back off on her snooping, including vandalism at the library but she doesn’t back down.Amy is also getting pressure on the homefront to start planning her wedding especially from her future mother-in-law Fiona, who has some grand plans.___Again, Victoria Gilbert has her characters digging into the past and through that, we meet an eclectic group of former “hippies” all to catch a killer. In the guise of notifying them about the skeleton being found and “warning” them that the police may be contacting them as Sunny’s grandparents had asked, Amy gets up close and personal with the suspects. This approach was a nice twist. I really enjoyed the way Amy fulfilled her promise while still getting information.All of Ms. Gilbert’s characters are well defined and easily visualized. The core character’s stories continue to evolve realistically. Amy is very dedicated to her job as is Richard when it comes to anything related to dance and movement. Sunny like Amy is very determined and independent. It is to see why they are friends and how well they work together. Fiona is over the top, turning her nose up at almost everything, but Amy and Richard are learning how to deal with her. I like that Sheriff Investigator Brad Tucker knows what a great resource he has in Amy and that he is realizing she just can’t help but to get involved in his cases.The mystery this time was a tricky one because of the amount of time that has passed since the death, the age of the suspects, another murder, and twist upon twist upon twist. I truly thought I was on the right course to solving this mystery then suddenly there was a twist that turned all my theories inside out but got Amy on the right track. There was some edge of seat moments to raise our blood pressure as we got close to the end of the book. Nicely done Ms. Gilbert, I couldn’t turn the pages fast enough.Bound for Murder has engaging characters paired with some shady ones that keep both readers and our protagonist on our toes. A very well-written mystery with a true romance and just a bit of humor to lighten things up. A strong addition to this series. I do recommend reading them in order but this one can stand on its own.

[PDF] Download Profiles in Corruption: Abuse of Power by America's Progressive Elite by Peter Schweizer | Free EBOOK PDF English

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Title: Profiles in Corruption: Abuse of Power by America’s Progressive Elite
Author: Peter Schweizer
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Publisher: Harper (January 21, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN: 006289790X
Rating: 4,8     872 reviews

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About the Author Peter Schweizer is the president of the Government Accountability Institute and the former William J. Casey Fellow at the Hoover Institution, Stanford University. He is a number one New York Times bestselling author whose books have been translated into eleven languages. Read more

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If you haven’t had the pleasure of reading Schweizer’s previous books, you’re in for a treat.Schweizer is an excellent researcher and you can be certain he has done his homework. In SECRET EMPIRES he went after the PLAGUE OF CORRUPTION on both sides of the political aisle, including Senator Mitch McConnell and his wife’s ties to the Chinese government.In PROFILES IN CORRUPTION, Schweizer goes after the Biden 5, using extensive documentation to reveal the network of corrupt tributaries which feed the Washington DC swamp. He also attacks Senator Elizabeth Warren’s work on bankruptcy laws, then advising the same corporate clients impacted by those laws. Also put under scrutiny is Senator Amy Klobuchar’s interesting habit of taking big money from donors, then introducing laws to benefit those same donors a few days later.Schweizer’s writing reminds one of a fantastic criminal prosecutor, laying down a fast-paced and bullet-proof case for crimes on a scale which will be shocking to the average man or woman who tries to live a moral life. The biggest criminals are those who claim to be better than us.All Americans should give thanks to Peter Schweizer for the type of journalism that used to be done by our TV and print journalists before they were decimated by the internet.
Yesterday afternoon I spent an hour or so researching the bio of Peter Schweizer. The blurb for this book doesn’t mention much about him although it does mention several of his previous books …which I have not read. According to what I found, the author is the President of Government Accountability Institute (GAI). I did a little more research on ‘Clinton Cash:….” and checked several sources on the internet and this is what I found…… ‘Clinton Cash….” apparently had some factual errors in it that were corrected after publication. (7 or 8 passages) and it is also mentions that the Clinton Foundation admitted that it had made some mistakes and they had implemented new rules… That is as far as I wentThere is a certain amount of trust, I believe, when reading any book but especially now with books on politics being published at an alarming rate it is even more important that we trust what is being written. I read with an open mind and trust this author that the information presented is credible and well-researched.Such an interesting topic for me…And, as my title suggests, the abuse of power does indeed run deep. The author has presented ‘corporate documents and legal findings from around the globe’ (as stated in the description for the book).In the book itself, eight politicians are discussed and in detail. Kamala Harris, Joe Biden, Cory Booker, Bernie Sanders, Elizabeth Warren, Amy Klobuchar, Eric Garcetti and Sherrod Brown. I will admit that I was interested in Bernie Sanders the most as I am from Vermont. And, with the race for the Democratic nomination in full swing, Elizabeth Warren, and Joe Biden were next on my list.According to the author this abuse of power comes in different forms. It may be that they use their positions to advance their position; it may be that they use their positions to advance and enrich themselves, using public power for personal gain and the use of the judicial system to right social wrongs. As one may envision, the more power one has, the more abuse of power is possible. And, there are financial ties to special interest.Am not going into detail about the eight mentioned in this book. I will admit that some were shocking revelations to me. It is amazing what one will do when power is at your beck and call. This book should be on your ‘read’ list prior to placing your vote in the upcoming Presidential election. The information presented in this one could very well change your thought process. Personally, I do not hold the same ideas about most of these individuals as I did prior to reading this one.Lots of notes are in the text so one can go to the back of the book, if interested, to check the sources. I thought it was a well researched book from the notes given.For me, a most interesting read and am glad that I purchased it. The manners in which power has been abused was indeed an eye opener (in some cases) for me. I think we all know that with the accumulation of power, there is the tendency to abuse it. Doesn’t make it right but…Highly recommended.
I bought the book after I saw Schweizer on TV last night. But there is so much more in this page turning book that I never thought possible. So you have the Biden five, Bernie Sanders and his wife’s relentless pursuit of capitalist gains, Kamala Harris who appears to be a very dirty cop, Elizabeth Warren and her three layer cake of corruption, Amy Klobuchar and her low energy cronyism… ON AND ON AND ON!!There just isn’t enough time in a TV segment for Schweizer to lay out all the evidence he has uncovered of terrible corruption among Americas progressive elite! You have to buy the book to believe it
This book is very interesting. When you start reading, it’s hard to put it down. I hope more people will read it and will contact their senators. Even if 50% of presented facts are true, it makes you think before voting for one of corrupt politicians author unmasked. This is the first book by Peter Schweizer I’ve red, now I will read all of them.
Fantastic piece exposing details the media refuses to provide.
Good read, on career politicians that do nothing good for our country!
Schweizer has probably risked more than his reputation by publishing this book. Exposing the machinations of the liberal elites could raise the awareness of the public, or so we hope.
In the world of bullet points and instant results this book, as well written as it is, has trouble maintaining interest. Ironically it is because it is so thorough that each transgression over proves the books central thesis: that these people are scurrilous examples of how to NOT conduct business. So Joe has thirty pages and Kamala has fifteen. The reasonable expectation of some hope for the future, some positive outcome, only applies to the future prosecution of these people. This is something that will never happen because surprise, surprise the system even exposed for what it is seems permanently compromised. I hope it will be a wakeup call to at least give lip service to putting an end to these morally corrupt people.

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Title: Cuddle Monkey
Author: Blake Liliane Hellman,Chad Otis
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Publisher: Atheneum/Caitlyn Dlouhy Books (January 7, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN: 1534431179
Rating: 4     2 reviews

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About the Author Blake Liliane Hellman has degrees in journalism and English from the University of Colorado and a master’s in film production from American University/FAMU, Czech Republic. She is the author of Something Smells! and Cuddle Monkey. She lives with her family and cat in Seattle, Washington.Chad Otis has a BFA in design from the University of Washington School of Art. Although he’s been working with the likes of Penguin Random House Digital, Nickelodeon, Cartoon Network, and Disney Online for over twenty-five years as an animator, illustrator, and creative director. Cuddle Monkey is his picture book debut. Read more

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3.5 stars. Cute! This is a sweet sibling story with a great attitude. Cuddle Monkey uses problem solving skills and shows some resilience (although that’s not spelled out in the story) while still coming across as a kid.

[PDF] Download The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired by Daniel J. Siegel,Tina Payne Bryson | Free EBOOK PDF English

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Title: The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired
Author: Daniel J. Siegel,Tina Payne Bryson
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Publisher: Ballantine Books (January 7, 2020)
Language: English
ISBN: 1524797715
Rating: 4,6     48 reviews

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Review “Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have spun a miracle—The Power of Showing Up is the ultimate guide to family reconnection. Clear, profound, and charmingly-illustrated, it unravels the challenges of modern parenting and reveals the simple truths about what children really need from the adults in their lives.”—Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B Minus  “Parenting at this moment in time and at today’s pace feels hard. But that makes it all that much more important that we try to simplify the process of parenting and not put quite so much pressure on our own parenting shoulders. The Power of Showing Up will help you do just that. Siegel and Payne Bryson are master teachers when it comes to helping parents react and respond to kids in ways that communicate ‘I hear you.’ They articulate and quantify how to make your parenting easier—and better!”—Christine Carter, Ph.D., author of Raising Happiness   “Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have written their best book yet—and that is saying a lot. They have distilled their parenting wisdom—based on neuroscience research and a deep empathy for children’s needs—into a profound concept: showing up. It is one of those great ideas that seems so obvious—but only after someone has shown it to you and spelled it out clearly. Best of all, Siegel and Payne Bryson ‘show up’ for the reader of this book. They know parents, know their fears and anxieties, hopes and dreams, and they provide an accessible path to seeing and soothing children and providing them with safety and security.”—Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting  “An essential book for every parent who yearns to be more effective and present and, simply, better. It shows us that we don’t have to be perfect, but we can make our kids feel more secure and confident (now and in the future) if we are present and aware as parents. This important book gives us the steps to follow to make this happen.”—Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D., president, Child Mind Institute   “Rarely does a book so broad and deep of subject give you the small doable steps to find your way to success, confidence, and connection with your children.  The Power of Showing Up brings to life the Zulu greeting ‘Sawubona’ (I see you) and the refrain ‘Ngikhona’ (I am here), which are essential for the parent-child connection.”—Kim John Payne, author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline“Drs. Siegel and Payne Bryson teach us how a parent can make a child feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure, even if he or she didn’t have that in their own childhoods.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of the New York Times bestselling classic Raising Cain“Siegel and Bryson provide relatable real world examples and . . . specific advice for handling various situations. . . . Parents looking for solid research delivered in an accessible manner will find Siegel and Bryson getting the job done well yet again.”Booklist Read more About the Author Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA, the founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and the executive director of the Mindsight Institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, Dr. Siegel is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestsellers Aware and Brainstorm, and is the co-author with Tina Payne Bryson of The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, with welcome visits from their adult son and daughter. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., is the founder and executive director of the Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice, and of the Play Strong Institute, a center devoted to the study, research, and practice of play therapy through a neurodevelopmental lens. She is a licensed clinical social worker, providing pediatric and adolescent psychotherapy and parenting consultations. Dr. Bryson keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, clinicians, and industry leaders around the world. She earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California and lives in Los Angeles with her husband and three children. Read more Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Chapter 1What It Means to Show UpOne message we deliver over and over whenever we write about parenting is that you don’t have to be perfect. Nobody is. There’s no such thing as flawless child-rearing. (We’ll pause while you let out a deep, relieved breath.) So raise a warm, left-in-the-minivan juice box to all of us imperfect parents out there.At some level we all know this, but many of us—especially committed, thoughtful, intentional parents—consistently fall prey to feelings of anxiety or inadequacy. We worry about our children and their safety, of course, but we also worry that we’re not being “good enough” in the way we’re raising them. We worry that our kids won’t grow up to be responsible or resilient or relational or . . . ​(fill in the blank). We worry about the times we let them down, or hurt them. We worry that we’re not giving them enough attention, or that we’re giving them too much attention. We even worry that we worry too much!We’ve written this book for all the imperfect parents who care deeply about their kids (as well as for imperfect grandparents and teachers and professionals and anyone else who cares for a child). We have one central message full of comfort and hope: When you’re not sure how to respond in a given situation with your child, don’t worry. There’s one thing you can always do, and it’s the best thing of all. Instead of worrying, or trying to attain some standard of perfection that simply doesn’t exist, just show up.Showing up means what it sounds like. It means being there for your kids. It means being physically present, as well as providing a quality of presence. Provide it when you’re meeting their needs; when you’re expressing your love to them; when you’re disciplining them; when you’re laughing together; even when you’re arguing with them. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to read all the parenting bestsellers, or sign your kids up for all the right enrichment activities. You don’t have to have a committed co-parent. You don’t even have to know exactly what you’re doing. Just show up.Showing up means bringing your whole being—your attention and awareness—when you’re with your child. When we show up, we are mentally and emotionally present for our child in that moment. In many ways, there is no other time but now—this present moment of time—and you are in charge of learning how to show up in ways that will both greatly empower you as a parent and promote resilience and strength in your child. It’s this power of presence that enables us to create an empowered mind for our children—even if we mess up on a regular basis.Depending on your background and what kind of parents you had as a child, showing up for your own kids might come naturally. Or, you might find it difficult. You might even recognize at this moment that you’re not showing up for your kids in a consistent way, either physically or emotionally. In the coming pages we’ll discuss how, regardless of your own childhood experiences, you can be—and continue to become—the kind of parent you want to be.Of course we all make better and worse decisions as parents, and there are all kinds of skills we can attain to help our children develop in optimal ways. But when you get right down to it, parenting is about simply being present for our kids. As we’ll soon explain, the longitudinal research on child development clearly demonstrates that one of the very best predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, social and emotional development, leadership skills, meaningful relationships, and even academic and career success—is whether they developed security from having at least one person who showed up for them. Across cultures around the globe, these studies reveal a universal finding about how we can parent well, if not flawlessly.And the great news is that these empirical findings can be synthesized and then made accessible for all of us imperfect parents all over the world. That’s what this book is about.What Showing Up Looks Like: The Four S’sWhen a caregiver predictably (not perfectly) cares for a child, that child will enjoy the very best outcomes, even in the face of significant adversity. Predictable care that supports a healthy and empowering relationship embodies what we call the “Four S’s”—helping kids feel (1) safe—they feel protected and sheltered from harm; (2) seen—they know you care about them and pay attention to them; (3) soothed—they know you’ll be there for them when they’re hurting; and (4) secure—based on the other S’s, they trust you to predictably help them feel “at home” in the world, then learn to help themselves feel safe, seen, and soothed.When we can offer kids the Four S’s, making repairs whenever the inevitable ruptures in these connections with our children may occur, we help create what’s called “secure attachment,” and it’s absolutely key to optimal healthy development.As in our other books, everything we present here is backed by science and research. And as we’ll soon explain, these ideas emerge from the field of attachment science, where for the last half-century researchers have been conducting careful studies. If you know our earlier work—from Dan’s title with Mary Hartzell called Parenting from the Inside Out and through our books The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain—then you’ll immediately see, as you read the coming pages, how this book expands on what we’ve written before by going deeper into concepts vital to understanding the science behind whole-brain parenting. We’ve even added a few new twists here and there, since our understanding of parenting and the brain, along with the field of attachment science in general, continues to grow and evolve. So readers who know our work well will both see something new and feel right at home, recognizing familiar concepts while also gaining a richer understanding of them. We’ve worked hard to make the scientific information as accessible as possible, so that even someone approaching these ideas for the first time can follow along and immediately apply them in their personal and parenting lives.In addition to attachment science, the other primary scientific framework underpinning our work is interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB), an approach in which we combine various fields of science into one perspective on what the mind and mental thriving are all about. IPNB looks at how our mind—including our feelings and thoughts, our attention and awareness—and our brain and the whole body are deeply interwoven within our relationships with one another and the world around us each to shape who we are. The field of IPNB has dozens of professional textbooks (now over seventy) exploring the science of mental health and human development. Within those fields synthesized by IPNB is the study of attachment as well as scholarship on the brain, including a focus on how the brain changes in response to experience, called neuroplasticity.Neuroplasticity explains how the actual physical architecture of the brain adapts to new experiences and information, reorganizing itself and creating new neural pathways based on what a person sees, hears, touches, thinks about, practices, and so on. Anything we give attention to, anything we emphasize in our experiences and interactions, creates new links in the brain. Where attention goes, neurons fire. And where neurons fire, they wire, or join together.What does this have to do with showing up? Well, your reliable presence in the lives of your children can significantly impact the physical architecture and connectivity in their brains, creating mental models and expectations about the way the world works. A mental model is a summary the brain makes that creates a generalization of many repeated experiences. Such mental models are constructed from the past, filter our current experience, and shape how we anticipate and sometimes even sculpt our future interactions. The mental models are formed within the architecture of neural networks underlying attachment and memory.No kidding—the experiences you provide in terms of your relationship with your child will literally mold the physical structure of her brain. Those connections in the brain in turn influence how her mind will work. In other words, when parents consistently show up, their children’s minds come to expect that the world is a place that can be understood and meaningfully interacted with—even in times of trouble and pain—because the experiences you provide shape the ways the brain processes information. The brain learns to anticipate certain realities, based on what has happened before. That means your children will predict what’s coming next based on previous experience. So when you are present for them, they come to expect positive interactions—from others, and from themselves. Kids learn who they are and who they can and should be, in both good times and bad, through their interactions with us, their parents. Showing up thus creates in our kids neural pathways that lead to selfhood, grit, strength, and resilience. Read more

Customers Review:

While I think the authors are brilliant and definitely know their field, this book (after reading all their others) feels like it could have just been an article. Of the 232 pages, almost every page has bubbles repeating information and then entire pages with a picture that doesn’t quite seem necessary. Felt like these techniques were used to fill pages, because a lot of the information was repeated over and over. I’ve listened to podcasts these authors have been featured in and got just about all I needed to know from that book in a short round up. The book also focuses heavily on the past relationships of parents and how they were raised, while important didn’t really fit the title, for me. Would have enjoyed more specific scenarios and words to use in difficult situations, instead of vague examples or pointing to their other books. Not a bad book, just not terribly informative in my opinion, definitely not worthy of a full book and at $27 if purchased in a bookstore vs Amazon.
I love this book. As the mother of five year old twins, I find this book encouraging, eye-opening and super-practical in its advice. As soon as I read the welcome and first chapter, I got that warm glow of recognition that this is powerful, sound, supportive wisdom. The authors do a great job of explaining the science and grounding their advice in the reality of parenting today, which is stressful and overwhelming even when it’s joyful and wonderful. I’m excited to show up for my kids more, every day. Thank you Dr. Siegel an Dr. Bryson!
I found this book incredibly interesting. I was able to read it and look at it from both an adult child perspective and that of a parent of four children. My parents were detached, but “History is not destiny”. I was able to make sense of childhood and that type of parenting. I remember wanting my own family to love and one that would love me and be there for me. I broke the cycle. I raised my children by being there. Not just a physical presence, but an emotional one as well. I wanted them to feel safe, soothed and secured. It was interesting to read that in this book! It was a choice I made many years ago. It’s nice to see it has made them all strong,Successful and secure. Your past doesn’t define you, but there are ways to shape and mold your little people.Excellent points throughout the book!
As a parent of five sons and a grandparent of twelve grandchildren, I feel empowered after reading this book. It makes no difference how I was patented or how I parented, the authors offer a guide to how any family can improve their skills to allow their families to thrive.
I have 6 kids, 3 adopted, and tend to read everything I can get my hands on. My oldest has reactive attachment disorder (want nightmares? Google that) so many books aren’t helpful for her but usually I can find something of use in a book. Just the same, most books are quickly moved on to a friend, goodwill or the trash depending on how truly bad they are. This book will probably continue living on my shelf for a bit.One of my big beefs right now as a parent, teacher and coach is that many of us are so INTO our phones that we don’t or can’t see our children. Nothing makes me crazier than going out for a nice dinner and be seated next to a family where everyone is engrossed in their phone. What’s the point? So when I was offered this title I almost passed . . . I (Capital, bold, italicized) pay attention to my kids. I don’t need that book.BUT I was short on reading material, and maybe there’s something there for me. So I requested it.The book itself is well made — strong binding, thick cover, thick pages. Print is clear and easy to read with illustrations and images that help drive the point home. The information included is interesting and easy to read while stimulating thought and consideration for your life and how your actions shape the adults your children will become. Basic chapters are broken into an introduction to attachment science, helping your child feel safe/seen/soothed and secure, and a conclusion. It allows the parent (regardless of your child’s age) to consider how you were parented and you are parenting your own. Yes, as a parent of a child with an attachment disorder I have heard the majority of this information before. But it is a great reminder and many sections were presented in a unique way I haven’t heard before. Do I think it will “cure” my eldest? Definitely not. But it will give me a reminder on the methods that will work well for her, and it certainly will benefit my other child as well.The BEST part of this book was that there was no blame. So often people with children who have attachment issues are told (or feel like they’re being told) that they are the problem. There was no discussion of how you are a lousy parent, just realistic advice to evaluate where you are now and move forward to a healthier future.
This is by far the best book written for parents about what kids need the most. This is an excellent description of basic attachment and how important validating emotions is. I wish this was given out at every birth..